Grace

It's okay to be angry, but it isn't healthy to be resentful. Regardless of what we learned as children, no matter what we saw role-modeled, we can learn to deal with our anger in ways that are healthy for us and for those around us. We can have our angry feelings. We can connect with them, own them, feel them, express them, release them, and be done with them.

We can learn to listen to what anger is telling us about what we want and need in order to take care of ourselves.

Sometimes we can even indulge in angry feelings that aren't justified. Feelings are just feelings; there is no morality in the feeling, only in our behavior. We can feel angry without hurting or abusing others or ourselves. We can learn to deal with anger in ways that benefit our relationship instead of ways that harm them

If we don't feel our angry feelings today, we will need to face them tomorrow.

Today, I will let myself feel my anger. I will express my anger appropriately, without guilt. Then I will be done with it.

Melody Beattie - The Language of Letting Go

wrench wench

Sorry...I found this quote to be more whitebread ,self improvement stuff. I don't need a quote to tell me it's ok to be pissed off...better than being pissed on. My anger tells me that I need food, shelter, safety and the jerk who lost my paperwork or made me walk 6 miles to another freaking agency...who threatens my shelter...threatens my safety deserves a good healthy dose of my anger as a reality check for them. When I eat once a day if lucky...have no utilities or heat...no vehicle...because PTSD I developed by serving my country is making me nuts and the country I served is honoring me by turning it's back...I have every right to express it and cram it down their throats.

Railroad Momma

Anger is a human emotion and yes everyone gets angry. If I were in your position, I would be angry as well. Just remember to pick your battles and use that anger in a postive way. Use it so that you benefit financially, emotionally, and spiritually. Good luck in your endeavors while facing these issues.

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~Regina Brett~

eagleheart

WOMEN DO NOT KNOW HOW TO GET ANGREY. WOMEN HOLD SO MUCH INSIDE THAT WHEN THEY DO GET ANGREY IT ALL COMES OUT AT ONCE. resentment isnt good for the soul. It lets the abuser have all our power. movies have been made about women with resentments or women with a gruge. The endings are not nice when thier resentments boil over. Themla and Loiuise went over a cliff with thier car after going on a vengence run. Monster doesnt have a good ending either. The woman was excuted. Brave women with Jodie Foster almost invites women to hold on to resentments. There are many more movies like this. We dont need these types of heroes. They do us a dis service.