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Old 11-01-2009, 15:59   #1 (permalink)
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I spent 12 years total in the navy nurse corps. I moved to Missouri from California 3+ years ago, husband’s job transfer. I call the move “the day I left civilization”.

We bought a house in, what we thought, was a nice quite suburb. I had a neighbor kindly offer for son to mow my lawn. Then the neighbor started stalking me, following me to public places, making prank phone calls and ultimately ruining my reputation when he did not get what he wanted.

Then this started, as I worked in my yard. A neighbor lady would call my other neighbors over. They would stand on the side walk and call me names. Several times I felt physically threatened. Then one morning this neighbor lady’s husband shook his fist in my face telling my turn me f-ing music down. I called police.

They told the cops they were afraid of me because I had been the navy.

Also they wanted to know if I owned a gun. Like they have the right to know this information. The police told then we did not. The police officer (woman) told me because I had been in the navy I should not own a gun.

I had to send a letter to the police chief to get anything done about this issue. After I sent him the letter no one ever looks at us, this is great.

Oh, this really hurts. We started going to a church down the street from out house. We went for eight months; no one would be our friend. We do have a neighbor on our street that goes to this same church.

Also, our Alderman was running for Mayor and showed up on my door step asking for my vote. Through the course of the conversation he told me he did not like people from California.

When I left California, I left my family and friends. I thought I would make new friends and stay in touch with old ones. Now my family and friends in California have become my life line.

What do you think about this? I have never experienced anything like this before, and I've lived in a lot of neighborhoods.








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Old 11-06-2009, 23:14   #2 (permalink)
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I am sorry you are having such a difficult time in your new neighborhood! Sometimes there is no figuring people out.

In the late seventies my sons and I were totally ostracized by an entire church because they didn't like my interpretation of a scripture during an adult Sunday School class. They began shunning us like we were the anti-christ. It was horrible!!! The church was right across the street from our apartment complex and convenient... until the shunning that is.

I know how lonely it can be to be shunned where there is no cause. We are here for you and we won't be ugly!

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Old 11-07-2009, 08:32   #3 (permalink)
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This is assinine! Maybe they don't know we have a Navy...seein' as how they have never seen the ocean. And California...hmmmm...isn't that just west of Russia?? Really sorry to hear about all this abuse. Every time I hear about how the military is such a close knit community or how Americans support our troops/vets...I think what a load of BS. I got a lot of grief as a vet...because I was a woman and Vietnam era. I got a lot of grief in the service too for my gender...and being from California on occasion.

Any hope for a job transfer soon?
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Old 11-07-2009, 08:48   #4 (permalink)
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I am sorry you are having such a difficult time in your new neighborhood! Sometimes there is no figuring people out.

In the late seventies my sons and I were totally ostracized by an entire church because they didn't like my interpretation of a scripture during an adult Sunday School class. They began shunning us like we were the anti-christ. It was horrible!!! The church was right across the street from our apartment complex and convenient... until the shunning that is.

I know how lonely it can be to be shunned where there is no cause. We are here for you and we won't be ugly!

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I've never been much of a church goer, and after this experience I will never go to church again. We just wanted to find some friends in our community. St. Louis is not a good fit for us.
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Old 11-07-2009, 09:06   #5 (permalink)
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This is assinine! Maybe they don't know we have a Navy...seein' as how they have never seen the ocean. And California...hmmmm...isn't that just west of Russia?? Really sorry to hear about all this abuse. Every time I hear about how the military is such a close knit community or how Americans support our troops/vets...I think what a load of BS. I got a lot of grief as a vet...because I was a woman and Vietnam era. I got a lot of grief in the service too for my gender...and being from California on occasion.

Any hope for a job transfer soon?
California is also east of Russia...the earth is round...I wonder if these people know that much??? HA HA HA!!!

Every time I go for a walk, run or rake leaves I wear a NAVY t-shirt. I have Navy vet on my car. I have posted a flag outside, that I made and easily reads.."The land of the free, because of the brave". I see them seethe when they look at it, at least they can read.

These people are too afraid to give me any more crap, because the police chief cleaned their clock for them...Tee He He. At least I got the cops on my side, most are vets I'm sure.

It will be awhile before we can go back home. At times it gets to me and I feel very lonely and hurt, but I can rise above the situation.

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Old 02-07-2010, 23:03   #6 (permalink)
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Well anytime you get lonely, you can come on here and find friendly people that know exactly where you are and what you have been through. I can't believe that anyone in the US would treat a Vet this way. I would love to come up with a posse and start kicking some ass for ya!!!!

I can't believe anyone would treat you this way, vet or not. You can always come to Texas, we are very hospitable here

You have friends here, who needs though ugly/rotten neighbors. I would just act as if they don't exist.
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Old 03-17-2010, 17:49   #7 (permalink)
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Well anytime you get lonely, you can come on here and find friendly people that know exactly where you are and what you have been through. I can't believe that anyone in the US would treat a Vet this way. I would love to come up with a posse and start kicking some ass for ya!!!!

I can't believe anyone would treat you this way, vet or not. You can always come to Texas, we are very hospitable here

You have friends here, who needs though ugly/rotten neighbors. I would just act as if they don't exist.
Sorry for not responding sooner, I have been real busy. Thanks for the support.
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Old 05-18-2010, 21:37   #8 (permalink)
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Not sure about the people in your new neighborhood. But I am sure there are bad places to live in every state. Maybe you guys need to move. I know everyone has a right to live where they want. But living in a place where you are being mistreated is hard. Sounds like a losing battle. Also sounds like a red-necked place. I know we have red-neck neighborhoods here that I won't live in. Hey, there was a commercial for visiting MO on my TV while I was writing this. What a laugh!! Anyway, I hope they move out or at least I hope they leave you alone. Pray a lot and maybe you will get transfered. Take care.
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home sweet home

This is what you call "COOL".

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I'm looking for a home. They have sales/short sales/ rentals, condos, etc with pictures and lots of data. Plus it is plain old fun! Use Google maps and the street views to look over the neighborhoods.

Hope that is helpful.

Thanks for caring about our Missouri sister :-)
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Old 05-22-2010, 07:31   #10 (permalink)
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I did win the war over all of this as they leave me alone, due to police intervention.

It is not easy living with neighbors who I can't say a friendly hello.

I'm not in a position to move, yet-

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